When we are stuck in conflict or disconnection with our partner, we tend to think of our partner as the problem, wanting them to change, but this leaves us feeling powerless and confused. Seeing the negative cycle as the real adversary changes everything.

When we can see our part in the negative cycle, we can make skillful changes that make our partners feel more safe and more cared for, and the key to reversing the negative cycle is being able to see the five elements of your emotional response.

Most of us these days have busy lives full of demands. The practice of a daily check in provides a quick and effective way to maintain connection and enjoyment in your marriage or relationship.

All of us know what an apology is, but when feelings are strained, it can be hard to give an apology that restores trust. These three steps will help ensure your apologies are felt.

The relationship Time-Out is a skillful way to avoid the escalation of heated emotions that send conflicts out of control. With a short break, you and your partner or spouse can create more moments of understanding and fewer moments of hurt.

It hurts so bad when we find ourselves in repeated arguments with our spouse or partner. The bad news is that when this happens, we’re caught in a negative cycle. The good news is that couples therapy can free us from the conflict loop and create positive cycles of joy and connection.